Passion or Intimacy? Which One Gets Your Vote?

Are passion and intimacy two separate ideas, or can they sometimes be tied and connected?

Picture this: You’re this super cheery, happy-go-lucky kind of guy, OK? Back in college, something happened that seriously stuck with you. You witnessed your pal Sam being open and vulnerable, and what did he get in return? Pain and rejection. Ouch! That certainly got under your skin. So you made up your mind right there and then and started to construct a big wall around your heart to keep those bothersome feelings at bay. No more putting yourself in harm’s way!

During college and even after, you couldn’t help but notice something. You saw people around you being all vulnerable and stuff, right? They shared their innermost fears and dreams with their partners, in the hopes it would bring them closer.

But guess what? Some of them ended up getting laughed at or ignored. And there were even those poor souls whose relationships fell apart after they opened up and got rejected. Man, those experiences really stuck with your thought, “I’m not going to take that rocky path of opening up my heart at all costs!” after listening to them.

Consequently, a habit took root within you – hiding your true feelings and thoughts. You became adept at putting on a brave face, skillfully projecting an image that belied the turmoil within.

But beneath your carefully constructed facade, you still longed for deeper connections. You yearned for someone who would truly understand you and accept you, flaws and all. Every time you walked through the park or the beach, observing intimate couples, a subtle pang of longing washed over you.

Your journey of love begins as you embrace vulnerability!

Then, one fateful day, you crossed paths with Natalie at your workplace. There was something about her – her kindness, her compassion, her genuine interest in understanding you on a profound level – that struck a chord within you. Yet, the sturdy walls you had you had built prevented you from fully opening up to her. You were hesitant to share your vulnerabilities, fearing that she would either reject you or judge you.

But as time went on, Natalie continued to show patience and understanding. She shared her own vulnerabilities, allowing you to catch glimpses of her true self. She created a safe space for you to express your thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment. This gradually chipped away at the walls you had erected, making you realize that vulnerability wasn’t a weakness but a strength.

One evening, during a tranquil trek under a starlit sky, you took a deep breath and spoke from your heart. You shared your own fears, dreams, and insecurities, baring your soul to Natalie. The vulnerability in your words touched something deep within her. She realized that your openness had created a space for trust and intimacy to flourish.

Inspired by your example, Natalie mustered the courage to let her guard down to a bare minimum. She began to share more of her own sexual experiences, attractions, fantasies, and desires without feeling threatened. Through your shared vulnerability, you and Natalie found a love that transcended the superficial.

The story highlights that emotional intimacy goes beyond just sex.

Here’s the thing: there’s no denying that having sex with someone can demonstrate your connection to them. I’ll tell you this, though: closeness is about much more than just getting physical. It’s not all about fancy sex toys or sexy outfits either. Don’t get me wrong, those things can be fun, but they’re not the secret to long-lasting pleasure. The real deal is all about exploring and expressing your sexuality openly and without boundaries. It all comes down to being open, honest, and free with each other. The real magic takes place there, my friend.

Alright, let’s talk about the casual stuff for a sec!

When it comes to casual hookups, prostitution, porn, or webcam sex, let’s be real here – intimacy ain’t always part of the package. Sure, there’s a little something going on, but it’s more about scratching an itch than making a genuine connection, you know what I mean?

But hey, here’s a game-changer: partner poses or exercises!

This is where the real intimacy magic happens when you get close and personal with your partner, make eye contact, communicate, and share experiences. It’s like a crash course in deepening that bond between you two. So, if you’re looking to take things to the next level and cultivate some real, meaningful intimacy, these partner poses are the way to go.

Here are some partner postures that MyFat Diet recommends, which may be thought of as a figurative dance that beautifully unites partners and creates a stronger bond between them:

V-Shape Hold

• Hold the V-shaped position with your partner
• Be careful not to have rounded forward shoulders.
• Maintain a deep and steady breath throughout the exercise
• Stay for 5 complete cycles of breath, with each cycle including one inhale and one exhale.
• Be in the present moment, letting go of distractions and worries
• Open up and trust your partner with your feelings
• Feel the support and connection between you and your partner as you hold the pose together
• Notice any sensations or emotions that arise during the practice
• Stay attentive to your partner’s presence and energy
• Appreciate the shared experience and the growth it brings to your relationship.

Grounding Stretch

• Engage your core and lean your head backward, directing your gaze towards the ceiling.
• Breathe in sync with your partner’s rhythm
• Visualize the stability and strength of a wooden plank, symbolizing the support you have provided to each other.
• Reflect on the small gestures of love and care you have shared throughout your journey together.
• Connect with the earth, find stability, and release tension through the stretch.
• Take 5 complete breaths in this pose, allowing its grounding and centering effects to resonate.
• Release the pose when both you and your partner feel ready, carrying a sense of unity and gratitude with you.

Double Tree

• Lift the outside foot into a tree pose while standing facing forward.
• Keep the inside foot as the supporting leg on the ground.
• Extend both arms up straight to the sky with palms pressing into each other.
• Breathe in sync with your partner
• Feel the unity and balance between you and your partner as you hold the pose
• Make sure you stay steady and grounded
• When you’ve had your fill and you’re ready to switch things up, just release the pose.
• But don’t rush it! Take a moment to soak in the lingering sense of grounding and connection that remains.
• Once you’re done, don’t be afraid to repeat the whole shebang on the other side.
• It’s all about balance, my friends! So go ahead and rock that pose on both sides to keep the good vibes flowing.

 

 Heart-Opening Stretch

• As you continue to look at each other, take a deep breath.
• On an exhale, stretch back to open your heart to the sky
• Notice what it’s like to have the support of your partner’s hand to help ease a little deeper into the backstretch.
• Embrace the vulnerability of the moment as you both open your hearts to each other.
• Let this raw display of vulnerability serve as a reassurance to your partner that together, anything is possible.
• Take a moment to appreciate the power of unity and support.
• Remain present and connected throughout the exercise, cherishing this shared experience with your partner.
• Stay here for 5 full breaths

Shoulder Support Stretch

• Stand facing your partner.
• Your partner should act as an anchor by keeping their feet firmly planted on the ground.
• Lift one foot and place it on your partner’s shoulder. This foot should be positioned with the sole resting on the shoulder, while your other foot remains on the ground.
• Find your balance and make sure you feel secure in this position.
• Take 5 full breaths, inhaling and exhaling deeply.
• After 5 breaths, carefully switch legs by lowering the foot that was on your partner’s shoulder and raising the other foot instead.
• Again, find your balance and take 5 full breaths in this new position.
• Throughout the exercise, maintain good communication with your partner and make any adjustments necessary to ensure both of you feel comfortable and supported.
• Take a moment to rest and switch roles with your partner, allowing them to experience the pose while you offer support.

Shared Balance

1. Stand with your back against your partner, ensuring your heels are touching each other.
2. Both partners should be facing away from each other, creating a slight distance between your bodies.
3. Take a moment to find your balance and ground yourself.
4. Sync your breath with your partner, aiming to breathe together as one.
5. As you inhale, feel the expansion of your chest and lungs, drawing in fresh energy.
6. On the exhale, release any tension or stress, allowing it to dissipate.
7. Maintain a gentle connection with your partner throughout the pose, holding on to each other for support.
8. Embrace the idea of sharing one breath, fostering a deep sense of unity and connection.
9. Stay in this pose, breathing together or alternating breaths, for a few cycles or as long as it feels comfortable.
10. Reflect on the metaphorical significance of this pose, acknowledging the dynamics of sharing, support, and reciprocity within relationships.
11. When you’re ready to conclude the pose, gently release your hold on each other and take a moment to appreciate the shared experience.

Sweet Stacks

• Assume a plank-like pose, with your hands placed firmly on the ground directly under your shoulders.

• Instruct your partner to position themselves facing the opposite direction, also in a plank pose
• Ensure that your partner securely grips your ankles, maintaining a stronghold.
• Hold this position for 5 full breaths
• Keep your core engaged and your body aligned throughout the exercise.
• After 5 breaths, release the leg hold and carefully switch positions with your partner.
• Now, you assume the plank position facing in the opposite direction, and your partner extends their legs for you to hold.
• Your partner should maintain a strong plank position, and you should securely grip their legs just above the ankles.
• Hold for another 5 full breaths, supporting your partner while staying balanced.
• Throughout the exercise, communicate with your partner to ensure mutual comfort and safety.
• Once the second round of 5 breaths is complete, release the leg hold and take a moment to rest.

Gratitude Stretch

• Sit back to back with your partner, creating a physical connection.
• Raise both your arms and interlace your hands with your partner’s, palms touching.
• Take turns gently pulling on each other’s hands, creating a stretch across the shoulders and chest.
• Reflect on a past situation where you chose to compromise or give in on a decision.
• Remember the gratitude and appreciation your partner expressed for your willingness to compromise.
• Stay in this position, focusing on the physical stretch and the emotional connection.
• Take five deep breaths together, allowing the stretch to deepen with each exhale.
• Release your hands and take a moment to acknowledge the strength of your partnership.
• Repeat this exercise as desired, alternating who initiates the gentle pulling.
• Appreciate the support and understanding you both bring to your relationship.

Steady Boat

• Sit facing each other, with your buttocks on the ground and knees bent, feet flat on the floor.
• Hold each other’s hands firmly, creating a connection between you and your partner.
• Inhale deeply, elongating your spines, and sit tall.
• Slowly lean back together, extending your legs upward until your feet touch, resembling a boat position.
• Visualize the challenges you’ve faced together, symbolized by the rough seas.
• Find strength and stability in the knowledge that you’ve supported each other through those difficult times.
• Stay in this pose, embracing the imagery of a steadfast boat in the midst of turbulent waters.
• Take 5 deep breaths, allowing the calmness and resilience of your relationship to fill your hearts.

Sole-to-Soul Connection

• Begin by slowly leaning back, maintaining a straight spine, and avoiding rounding the lower back.
• Inhale and lift your right leg, extending it upward and pressing through the heel.
• Keep your spine lengthened, chest open, and slightly lean back your sternum.
• Take a deep breath in, engaging your abdominal muscles.
• As you exhale, reach out and hold onto each other’s toes, creating a connection between you and your partner.
• Stay in this pose for five breaths, allowing yourselves to find balance and stability.
• Repeat the same sequence on the other side, inhaling and lifting the left leg while maintaining the same alignment and engagement.
• During the pose, take a moment to reflect on the times when holding onto each other has brought comfort and a deep sense of belonging.
• Allow the gratitude for your shared journey to fill your hearts and strengthen your connection.
• Embrace the symbolism of this pose, reminding yourselves of the support and stability you provide for each other.

Dancer Duo

1. Begin with your partner in Triangle Pose, standing with their legs wide apart and one arm reaching upward, creating a straight line from their extended arm to the opposite foot.
2. Stand facing your partner, maintaining a comfortable distance between you.
3. Reach towards your partner’s back ankle with the hand on the same side as your partner’s extended arm in Triangle Pose.
4. Take hold of the outside of your back ankle, maintaining a secure grip.
5. From here, transition into Dancer’s Pose by lifting your back leg off the ground and extending it behind you.
6. As you find your balance in Dancer’s Pose, focus on pressing your foot into your partner’s palm, creating a stable connection between you.
7. Take five full breaths in this pose, allowing your body to find stability and opening up through the front of your body.
8. Use your partner’s palm as a point of support and leverage, helping you maintain balance and deepen the pose.
9. Throughout the exercise, communicate with your partner to ensure both of you feel comfortable and supported.
10. After five breaths, carefully release the hold on your partner’s ankle and slowly lower your leg back down.
11. Take a moment to rest and switch roles with your partner, allowing them to experience the pose while you offer support.
12. Support your partner’s extended leg in Dancer’s Pose by pressing your palm against the sole of your foot.
13. Encourage your partner to find their balance and take five full breaths, maintaining stability and openness in the pose.
14. Maintain clear communication and adjust the pressure of your palm as needed to support your partner comfortably.
15. Once the five breaths are complete, release the support and take a moment to rest.

Supportive Twists

• Start by standing facing your partner, maintaining a comfortable distance between you.
• Gently begin to twist your bodies in opposite directions, allowing the twist to originate from your waist.
• As you twist, reach one hand and place it on your partner’s calf, creating a gentle connection.
• Simultaneously, reach your other hand behind you, extending it towards your partner to establish a hand-to-hand connection.
• Maintain the twist in your body, feeling the gentle stretch and engagement through your torso.
• Stay in this twisted position for five full breaths, allowing your body to find stability and openness.
• Sync your breath with your partner’s rhythm, inhaling and exhaling together.
• Notice the support provided by your partner’s hand, allowing you to ease a little deeper into the twist.
• Embrace the sensation of support and connection between you and your partner.
• Remain present and aware of your body
• After 5 breaths, release the twist and slowly bring your body back to the starting position.
• Take a moment to rest and switch roles with your partner, allowing them to experience the twist while you offer support.
• Follow the same steps, gently twisting in opposite directions, placing your hand on your partner’s calf, and reaching your other hand back for their hand.
• Stay in the twist for another 5 full breaths
• Once the 5 breaths are complete, release the twist and take a moment to rest.

Shared Twists

• Sit cross-legged, ensuring that your backs are touching each other.
• Gently move your shoulders to the right, reaching your right hand to touch your partner’s left knee.
• As you exhale, deepen the twist in your shoulders, allowing the movement to come from the base of your spine.
• Find support from your partner’s back, helping you maintain an upright posture in the lower back.
• Experience a gentle twist that originates from the base of your spine.
• Reflect on a real-life situation where your partner provided their shoulder for you to rest your head on during a twisting time.
• Allow your partner to take their turn, repeating the same movements and offering their support.
• Stay in this position for five breaths, enjoying the gentle twist and the connection with your partner.
• Repeat the sequence on the other side, mirroring the movements to create balance and harmony.